Parents & Students

Student & Family Guide

A thoughtful arrival, a well-chosen wardrobe, and a ready spirit set the stage for an afternoon of grace, confidence, and growth. This guide offers everything your family needs to prepare with ease — from arrival and attire to conduct and essentials — so that each student may step into class feeling assured, respected, and free to learn.

Arrival & Attendance

  • Arrive on time. Students should arrive a few minutes before the scheduled start and be ready to begin promptly. Directors open doors at published times, not before.
  • Pick-up at dismissal. Parents or guardians are responsible for timely drop-off and pick-up at each venue's designated entrance.
  • Absence notice. If your student cannot attend, please notify us in advance. Make-up classes may be offered at the directors' discretion when space and scheduling allow.
  • Stay with the group. Students must remain with directors and classmates at all times and follow instructions for venue safety.

Cotillion Wardrobe Guide for Young Gentlemen

Loudoun County Chapter of the National League of Junior Cotillions®

Jacket & Shirt

A tailored dress suit or blazer combination is required.

  • A dark navy, charcoal, or black suit, or a coordinated blazer with dress slacks, is always appropriate.
  • A long-sleeved, collared dress shirt in white, light blue, or another classic solid must be worn and neatly tucked in.

Trousers & Tie

  • Dress slacks or khakis in good condition.
  • A tie or bow tie is required at all classes and events unless otherwise stated.
  • A belt that matches the shoes should be worn whenever trousers have belt loops.

Footwear & Accessories

  • Closed-toe dress shoes or loafers in black or brown, polished and in good repair.
  • Dress socks that coordinate with the trousers or shoes.
  • Keep jewelry and accessories minimal and refined.

Cotillion Wardrobe Guide for Young Ladies

Loudoun County Chapter of the National League of Junior Cotillions®

Dress Length

Knee-length or midi only.

A well-chosen hem lets a young lady move with ease and confidence — dancing, sitting, and greeting others without a second thought. The hem should rest at or just below the knee when standing and remain graceful when walking or seated.

  • We kindly ask families to avoid mini dresses, high-low hems that rise above the knee in front, and dresses that ride up noticeably when seated.
  • A simple test: if Grace Kelly would have worn it in High Society, if Audrey Hepburn would have worn it in Roman Holiday, or if Catherine, Princess of Wales, or Princess Charlotte would wear it in public — it is right for Cotillion.

Acceptable Necklines

Elegant, tasteful, and fully covered — even when leaning forward.

NecklineDescriptionWhy It Works
Jewel / High RoundSits at the base of the neckFully covered and elegant
Crew NeckClassic rounded neckline, slightly lower than jewelClean and covered
Boat / BateauWide, horizontal across the collarbonesElegant and open at the shoulders without depth
Modest ScoopGently curved, no deeper than 2–3 inches below the collarboneSoft and feminine while remaining covered
Square NeckStraight across, moderate depthStructured and polished; stays covered when bending
High V-NeckNarrow V that ends well above the bust lineCovered and elegant
Collared or ShirtwaistTraditional collar with buttonsClassic and refined
Peter Pan CollarSoft, rounded collarSweet and age-appropriate for younger girls
Mock Neck or High NeckSits above the collarboneExcellent for cooler months or formal evenings

If a neckline would look natural and refined on Catherine, Princess of Wales, or Princess Charlotte, it is fitting for Cotillion. Their consistent choice of graceful, covered, and age-appropriate styles offers an excellent real-world standard for what poise and quiet elegance look like.

Necklines That Are Not Appropriate

Deep V-necks, low scoops, or sweetheart styles that reveal cleavage when leaning
Off-the-shoulder, strapless, or one-shoulder styles
Halter necks that gap or pull open when moving
Sheer or illusion panels that expose skin
Any neckline that requires constant adjusting or becomes revealing when bending forward

Additional Notes

  • Straps should be at least one inch wide.
  • Fabric must be fully opaque.
  • Avoid tight or body-con cuts that pull at the neckline.

When in doubt: choose the option that feels calm, polished, and respectful of both the young lady wearing it and those around her. That is the standard we uphold at the Loudoun County Chapter.

Classroom Conduct

  • Students are expected to participate fully, listen attentively, and treat directors, instructors, fellow students, and venue staff with courtesy and kindness, as they themselves would like to be treated.
  • Students must be respectful of both our venue spaces and the venue staff who host us.
  • Electronic devices should remain off and put away during classes and events unless specifically permitted.
  • Parents and guardians are partners in reinforcing these expectations at home.

What to Bring

  • Student workbooks are required at every class, and at special events when specified.
  • Young ladies must bring white, wrist-length gloves to all events unless otherwise stated.
  • A willing spirit, genuine curiosity, and the confidence to engage fully in every lesson.

Reminder: Please do not bring food, gum, or open beverages into the ballroom. All beverages will be provided.

Questions

Still have a question?

We are happy to help with attire, schedules, or any special circumstance.

info@nljcloudoun.com